Only a few of the many lessons I learned during our five year struggle to become parents:
Not all trails are created equally. We need the smaller trials to be the foundation for the bigger trials. They are the small stones that hold up the big slabs of struggle. Everyone needs a healthy balance of struggle to keep them humble and keep life worth living.
God has His own plan and He is not bound to tell me exactly what it is. There would be no room for faith, hope, and growth if I knew every step of the roadmap to my life.
I have had the unique experience that few people get to have in gaining such an individual and personal relationship with my Savior.
Marriage is the most important thing in my life. When I came to terms with the fact that it might just be me and my husband for the rest of our lives my life became a lot easier and my marriage became much fuller.
It's okay to be sad. Too often we try to hide our feelings and be tough and independent, but sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the most humbling and require the most gentleness.
No two people go through infertility the same. I have friends who talk about it, friends who don't, and friends who never will. There are negative people and positive people, but there is a common sense of loss and emptiness, I believe, that most people who struggle with infertility feel.
Infertility can literally make or break your marriage. The times that we turned to each other were the strongest moments in our marriage, and the times we turn away were definitely the scariest.
No one knows what to say when they find out you can't have your own children. People have good intentions, and some people have loud mouths. But mostly you just can't take what people say personally, or it can destroy you.
